各位老师、同学们： 

生活中我们经常听到针对他人的抱怨，期待对方有所改变。但是，我们每个人终究只能为自己负责，因为我们有选择的自由，即使在最糟糕的情境中，我们依然可以选择以何种心态去面对。

以下的内容希望帮助您意识到自己的选择与责任，重新找回自己的力量。

When I say maturity, I mean an inner integrity. And this inner integrity comes only when you stop making others responsible, when you stop saying that the other is creating your suffering, when you start realizing that you are the creator of your suffering. This is the first step towards maturity: I am responsible. Whatsoever is happening, it is my doing.

当我说成熟，我指的是内在的完整。唯有当你停止让别人负责时，当你停止说别人在给你制造痛苦时，当你开始意识到你是自己痛苦的创造者时，这份内在的完整才会到来。这是走向成熟的第一步：这是我的责任。无论发生了什么，这都是我做的。

You feel sad. Is this your doing? You will feel very much disturbed, but if you can remain with this feeling, sooner or later you will be able to stop doing many things. This is what the theory of karma is all about. You are responsible.

    你感到悲伤、难过。这是你做的吗？你会感到非常困扰，但是如果你呆在这种感觉里，迟早你能停止做很多事。这就是业的全部理论。你要负责。

Don't say society is responsible, don't say that parents are responsible, don't say the economic conditions are responsible, don't throw the responsibility onto anybody. You are responsible.

不要说社会要负责，不要说父母要负责，不要说经济形势要负责，不要把责任丢到任何人身上。你要自己负责。

In the beginnning, this will look like a burden because now you cannot throw the responsibility on anyone else. But take it.

一开始，这看起来像是一个负担，因为现在你不能把责任丢到任何人身上。但是，负起责任来。

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